WHEN YOU FEEL LOST
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.”
— Henry David Thoreau
Feeling lost may just be your biggest catalyst for growth, igniting your sense of adventure and leading you to new experiences. There comes a time in everyone’s life when they feel out of track or you might feel like you are drifting along looking at yourself from a helpless lens while your body just does what you’ve trained it to do. Excitements are few, challenges are sparse, and the routine has taken over.When you’ve lost a sense of who you are, it’s similar to the grieving process when you lose a loved one. The first stage of grief is denial, the stage most stay in their entire lives.
Then there is anger and frustration, when you start to recognize that you are just going through the motions instead of being who you want to be.
Then you bargain with yourself, thinking that something will come along, won’t it? Sure it will. But what if it doesn’t? No, it will.
But then there’s depression, where you think, “I find myself dwelling on the negative. Nothing will change, because I’m not doing anything about it.”
We have to accept that it’s okay to feel lost sometimes but it’s not okay to completely dwell yourself in a shell because of that. There is no specified reason to feel this way.We often have far more control over some things than we think we do. When we don’t take ownership of this power, we can feel helpless in the face of external events and forces and also feel stuck.
DON’T be ashamed or afraid to seek professional help. There are people who are ready to listen and advise you in the right direction. TALKING helps!
Ask yourself these questions when you feel lost.
- Why are you feeling this way?
Trying to find the reason sometimes gives an answer of experiencing this way. Stop paying too much attention to your rational minds, and to what everyone else has to say. You need to listen to the voice of your heart and connect to the wisdom of your soul.
- What is holding you back?
Pain is inevitable. What we make out of it is optional. The sooner we accept this the faster we will be able to replenish ourselves. Likewise, It’s good to acknowledge when something is wrong, but it’s not enough; if something needs changing, do something to change it.
- What are you doing now that is going to pay off later?
Figuring out what we’re working towards and what is going to pay off in the future gives us a little bit of extra motivation each day – and reminds us that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if we can’t see it yet.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” —Maya Angelou
- What is worth failing at?
Sometimes, people feel lost because they are ruled by fear. Fear of starting over, fear of trying something new, fear of failing. At some point, the pain of remaining as we are — when we know we’re stuck — becomes greater than the pain we risk in order to grow. We are going to fail anyway if we keep doing the same thing long enough. But what if we succeed in trying something new? And this is only possible to if we give it a shot.If you keep yourself blinded to the truth of your situation, you can’t do anything to improve it.Let fear of failure, or pain keep you from doing something you want, and it becomes your prison; face it, and the walls disappear.
- What do you expect and wish to happen?
When we’re lost, when we’re floundering, when we’re out in the middle of the ocean without a single life raft in sight, it’s easy to forget that we want to find the shore at all. But once we fix our sights on that coastline, it becomes the simplest thing in the world to swim towards. The beautiful thing about not knowing what comes next is that you get to decide what comes next. And then it’s all up to you to make it happen.
“If you are working on something you really care about, you don’t have to be pushed. The vision pulls you.” — Steve Jobs
Concluding this article with a word of advice, next time you feel lost or stuck ask yourself “is it really worth it?” If the answer is no, then try indulging yourself with small plans or goals which will eventually lead to achieving your master goal.